How to Give Performance Feedback That Fuels Results—Not Defensiveness

Too many feedback conversations backfire. They feel tense, scripted, or unhelpful.

This quick-read manager guide gives you a 5-step method to give critical performance feedback that builds trust and growth, not defensivenss—based on our science-backed Self-Determination Theory framework (650,000+ published studies).

You’ll Learn:

✅ How to set a clear intention
✅ How to lead with connection
✅ How to give facts—not judgments
✅ How to create two-way dialogue
✅ How to plan next steps together

Bonus: A 90-Second Feedback Prep Checklist

Print it. Keep it on your desk. Use it every time.